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Looking for a fic I read quite some time back. Can't remember the plot very well, but there's a scene in the Bronze where Xander is challening Spike, saying Buffy has him whipped. Spike replies with a really great speech about how Xander is so fixated on control and his precious masculinity that he'll never truly understand what women want, or know why it's an honor just to be the slayer's lapdog, etc. etc. A very cool interaction. Can't remember the title or the author. Can anyone help?